M is one of the most intelligent, attractive, respectful and intriguing guys I have ever met or hooked up with. When I moved to Baltimore for graduate school, he was the first guy I matched with and the first guy I went on a date with. I was in the Hopkins Public Health graduate program, and he was attending Hopkins Medical School. He left the country to study abroad shortly after our date, but we kept in touch and he is moving to NYC shortly. Below is the first of my two-part (the second will be an in-person interview) interview with whom I shall graciously refer to as Dr. M.
Lacey: We met on Hinge. Do you remember who initiated the conversation first?
Dr. M: No idea. Honestly I didn’t even remember that it was on Hinge.
L: Did you ask me for drinks first, or did I ask you?
M: I asked you. I remember because I had just found a cool, expensive speakeasy that I wanted to check out and you looked like the type of person who would like it.
L: What was your first impression upon meeting me?
M: That you were hot (you looked better than your pictures). But also kind of weird and shy, but in a good way. Almost in a sexy, submissive way.
L: Was I a fun date?
M: I mean, lol… who doesn’t like good sex (spoiler alert).
L: I recall, after drinks, when we were walking by the water back to my apartment building you told me I was “difficult to read”. Elaborate.
M: At that point I was specifically trying to figure out if you wanted to hook up (not sure if you knew this). I was asking increasingly obvious questions: So what’s our next adventure for the night? Are you a homebody like me? What kind of movies do you like? Omg wanna watch that one?
L: When we were sitting by the rooftop pool at my apartment building we really opened up to each other. Did you feel comfortable with me right away?
M: Yes but I generally feel open and comfortable with people. I was more interested in learning about you beyond the small talk date convos. I could tell you had a story and I wanted to know more.
L: We bonded over our love of philosophy, specifically the movie “Waking Life”. Did you suggest we go to my apartment to watch it to: a) genuinely watch the movie b) hook up with me c) both.
M: Well I definitely wanted to hook up with you, so not A. But it’s one of my favorite movies, so not B 🙂
L: We were watching the movie for like an hour before you made a move. Why did you wait so long?
M: Haha yeah true. Sometimes I do that as a dominance thing. I like knowing that the other person wants me to make a move but withholding. And since you’re waiting, I’m the one in control, deciding how it goes down and what we do. I guess it’s a Dom thing.
L: Most important question: How was the sex? Details are welcome.
M: So good. Usually hooking up on a first date isn’t my favorite, not enough time to talk about limits and learn preferences etc. but we obviously connected on that level. I slowly pushed your limits and you encouraged it, telling me not to stop. After a while I was throwing you around the room like a rag doll.
L: Anything else you’d like to add?
M: Just that I saw there’s an in-person follow-up interview, and I’m sure your readers would appreciate some juicing details from this upcoming night.
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