Before you start reading this post, I feel I should leave a disclaimer that I love Sex and the City as much as the next girl. I started watching in tenth grade just before the first movie came out, and fell in love. I also think this show has had an undeniably remarkable impact on pop culture and on women in general and was genius in many ways. So this post isn’t about me judging Sex and the City… it’s about me judging everyone else.
I started watching a little bit of Bravo’s new show Miss Advised, about sex columnists who can’t find love, and started thinking about the effect Carrie Bradshaw still has on women today. Carrie Bradshaw was an amazing character that exemplified everything women want: to be skinny, pretty, fashionable, have great friends, a fun job, and gorgeous men asking you out left and right. She doesn’t really do much other than go out, eat, and have sex, yet she can afford all of the Manolo Blahniks her heart desires. Even though her life is a fantasy, akin to the life of Bella Swan in the Twilight series or Anatasia Steele in the Fifty Shades series, for some reason many women don’t view her as a character. They move to the city after college and expect their lives to be as glamorous as Carrie’s. They have the mentality that a pair of shoes will solve all of their problems, and writing or talking about their issues will make them go away in 30 minutes (just like they do in an episode of Sex and the City!). Twitter and other social media websites make this even more easy, because now every 25 year old’s twitter is a Sex and the City column.
Here is my point: no one is a Charlotte, or a Miranda, or a Carrie, or especially a Samantha, just as no man is an Edward or a Jacob. Sex and the City was a fun show, but girls need to start looking deeper at themselves than Carrie Bradshaw ever did: “Is my relationship like a pair of shoes?”
What do you think?
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